The clash between Corporate America and Motherhood

So I have not written in a while or taken the time to jot down thoughts due to on-boarding a new client at work and potty training.  CRAZY right.  Two major events happening at once.

I decided I needed to vent out my major concern with corporate america and the mom.  I didn’t notice how bad things were until Baby #2 was on the way! (super excited)  I announced it to the head of my department and the response was more like “oh its fine its fine, we will figure it out.”  Stunned!

So many questions go thru my mind at this point.  Are women being penalized for starting a family? Should you be shady towards someone because of their choices.  I have waited my entire life to have children and it appears that my job frowns upon that very thing.  Rather than being supportive they wanted to know right away when I was coming back from leave, how long would I take off etc.  It did not inspire confidence at all.  Instead I am left wondering why should I work for a company like this and why aren’t expanding families considered HUGE blessings.  I also am running around working like crazy because I feel like I need to be PERFECT at everything and that my company is doing me a favor by ‘”letting” me go out on leave.  It’s quitepaid_maternity_leave insane.  I find myself working longer days, nights and even on the weekends just to prove that I am still committed and going hard.

It feels like I am being penalized because I am pregnant.  I am almost sure that no one else works this hard nor has to go thru so many hoops just to prove themselves.  But then I also noticed that when men announce their wife is pregnant they get promoted and their leave time is celebrated.  Strange very very Strange.

So…now that I got this out.  I am done with the foolishness! No more killing myself for a company.  I will do anything for my family and quite frankly WHO WOULDN’T!!

I hope that this is an isolated situation and that lots of women don’t find this to be true too.

 

15 months…too soon to start potty training

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So I noticed that my daughter is now going into the bathroom and standing by the toliet randomly. I was scratching my head like hmmm what is she doing. Is it possible that she is ready to start potty training?? Can that really be the case??

Seems a bit early but I am one of those people who pays attention to signed so I went ahead and purchased two different pottys. One for home and one for travel!!

Always gotta be prepared!!

Nights like these…

So here is a day in the life of a police officers wife…

An indictment comes down or DOESN’T and now they hold the police officers in the event that people start protesting.

So of course they start protesting and now they are stuck at work…

As a new mom and new wife the other aspect of this life… is the life of a cop’s wife.  And it is very different.  They think they are going in for day and have to stay..they protect and serve their city when everyone is rallying against them.

And while I may not always agree with the practices of others and how the force is run generally, it is still a job for my love.

Soon I will have to find the right words for my child and be able to explain to her about the life of her father and his role in society.   It can be a hard pill to swallow.

And you just want them to come home at night and be a husband and a father…

Every day that they leave you …you just have to hope that they return….

Parenting with Pinterest

One of the immediate realizations that every mother must experience is that children do not come with a manual.  How does one know how many times to feed them, bathe them or even take them outside.  What is good?  What is bad?  Too much or too little?

I found tons and tons of answers online and more recently Pinterest.

Here are some PINS that I found super helpful.

Early Childhood Development

How much Sleep does your child need?

Foods for babies

Babies First Year: Senses and Motor Skills

You can learn alot from social media!  Let me know if you have some Pins that you would love to share!

Maternal Separation Anxiety

My Nanny called in sick on the first day??  Is that a sign…of COURSE IT IS!!

Because I am in Sales, I view the job as a nanny like the child is their client.  And to me first impressions are everything.

I am also learning how one of the greatest challenges in motherhood is who will watch your child when you cannot be there and how you get over the hurdle of allowing someone else to care for your child.  I know some people have NO challenges with this but I suppose that as a first time mom it can be scary!

I diagnosed myself with Maternal Separation Anxiety.  I am generally an anxiety filled person so this is just the absolute WORST!!  i look forward to when she can talk so that i can feel more comfortable with her going places without me!!

Everyone says things get better and I am holding them to it!