The clash between Corporate America and Motherhood

So I have not written in a while or taken the time to jot down thoughts due to on-boarding a new client at work and potty training.  CRAZY right.  Two major events happening at once.

I decided I needed to vent out my major concern with corporate america and the mom.  I didn’t notice how bad things were until Baby #2 was on the way! (super excited)  I announced it to the head of my department and the response was more like “oh its fine its fine, we will figure it out.”  Stunned!

So many questions go thru my mind at this point.  Are women being penalized for starting a family? Should you be shady towards someone because of their choices.  I have waited my entire life to have children and it appears that my job frowns upon that very thing.  Rather than being supportive they wanted to know right away when I was coming back from leave, how long would I take off etc.  It did not inspire confidence at all.  Instead I am left wondering why should I work for a company like this and why aren’t expanding families considered HUGE blessings.  I also am running around working like crazy because I feel like I need to be PERFECT at everything and that my company is doing me a favor by ‘”letting” me go out on leave.  It’s quitepaid_maternity_leave insane.  I find myself working longer days, nights and even on the weekends just to prove that I am still committed and going hard.

It feels like I am being penalized because I am pregnant.  I am almost sure that no one else works this hard nor has to go thru so many hoops just to prove themselves.  But then I also noticed that when men announce their wife is pregnant they get promoted and their leave time is celebrated.  Strange very very Strange.

So…now that I got this out.  I am done with the foolishness! No more killing myself for a company.  I will do anything for my family and quite frankly WHO WOULDN’T!!

I hope that this is an isolated situation and that lots of women don’t find this to be true too.

 

Getting antsy about Baby #1

So as soon as baby #1 starts walking people start asking about baby #2.  For me personally, I would love to know to have another but is all in God’s timing.  I just find it so interesting that a woman has sooo many challenges once they start having children.  Everyone has an opinion…everyone has something to say about everything..what they eat, how they sleep, what you buy them..what they wear…who they play with etc.  Its mentally exhausting!!

Its taken me a year and a half to ignore it.  But recently a woman was sooo serious..she pulled me to the side and said…please don’t wait until she is 2 to have another one…trust me.

I walked away like wow is she telling me something serious here that I am not paying attention to?  Clearly time will tell but I really started to wonder.

Is there perfect timing with having the next child?

Sitting Outside during Nap Time

One of the joys is truly that moment when the kids are down for a nap and you get some much needed alone time.  I have learned to make the most of Nap times…its my quiet time too!! Especially on the weekends when I am not working.

Today I decided to kick up my feet and sunbath.  Best idea I have come up with in a really long time.  It feels like I am away somewhere…and she is just inside asleep!!

Motherhood helps you to truly cherish every moment in life and take those moments to yourself when you get the opportunity.  The wind blows, the shade comes and goes and the sun feels wonderful on my skin.  Very very happy.

Being happy in motherhood is truly a blessing!!

The Dream Street

So here is a little story about my progress…Ever since I was a little girl my mom and I used to drive on Sundays after church and look at houses.  I became rather obsessed with nice architecture and unique looking houses.

When I learned to drive myself I found myself getting lost and stumbling on amazing houses.   On those drives I started making decisions and declarations for my life.

Today, I have moved several times, have a house and family of my own but I still have a dream street!  The dream street gives me something to look forward to, goals to obtain and options in life that I should always be considering.

My ultimate goal in life is constant progress and a “dream street” can always get better and better!

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Here’s What Time of Day Babies Are Born

Very interesting! My daughter was born at 4pm on the dot!

TIME

According to new data, American mothers-to-be aren’t having too many late night surprises. A new report shows the highest percentage of U.S. births in 2013 (the most recent data available) happened during morning and midday hours.

The new study from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)’s National Center for Health Statistics looked at 2013 birth certificate data from the National Vital Statistics System (NVSS), and found that the highest percentage of births took place occurred during the hours of 8:00 a.m. and noon. Less than 3% of babies were born during each hour from midnight to 6:59 a.m.

Though most births happen during the day, the latest findings report that when babies are born on a Saturday or Sunday, they are more likely to happen in the late evening or overnight—11:00 p.m. through 5:59 a.m.—compared to births that happen between Monday to Friday.

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I’m a Mommy Blogger and Proud of It

TIME

Call a woman a “mommy blogger” and you might as well be slinging mud. The expression, as it is most commonly used, is patronizing at best, derogatory at worst. What’s more is that it manages to offend on dual levels: a seeming contempt for both motherhood and the way mothers write about themselves. And yet, suffice it to say: I am a mommy blogger and proud of it.

Before I became a mommy blogger, I wrote a monograph titled The Advent of Pluralism: Diversity and Conflict in the Age of Sophocles. The book was about the meta-ethical theory of pluralism as it manifested itself in pre-Platonic Greek thought. Now I have a website, where I write about parenting and children—the tragedy of sibling rivalry as much as the comedy of a six year old’s staged wedding. Is this a change in subject matter tantamount to a fall from…

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