The clash between Corporate America and Motherhood

So I have not written in a while or taken the time to jot down thoughts due to on-boarding a new client at work and potty training.  CRAZY right.  Two major events happening at once.

I decided I needed to vent out my major concern with corporate america and the mom.  I didn’t notice how bad things were until Baby #2 was on the way! (super excited)  I announced it to the head of my department and the response was more like “oh its fine its fine, we will figure it out.”  Stunned!

So many questions go thru my mind at this point.  Are women being penalized for starting a family? Should you be shady towards someone because of their choices.  I have waited my entire life to have children and it appears that my job frowns upon that very thing.  Rather than being supportive they wanted to know right away when I was coming back from leave, how long would I take off etc.  It did not inspire confidence at all.  Instead I am left wondering why should I work for a company like this and why aren’t expanding families considered HUGE blessings.  I also am running around working like crazy because I feel like I need to be PERFECT at everything and that my company is doing me a favor by ‘”letting” me go out on leave.  It’s quitepaid_maternity_leave insane.  I find myself working longer days, nights and even on the weekends just to prove that I am still committed and going hard.

It feels like I am being penalized because I am pregnant.  I am almost sure that no one else works this hard nor has to go thru so many hoops just to prove themselves.  But then I also noticed that when men announce their wife is pregnant they get promoted and their leave time is celebrated.  Strange very very Strange.

So…now that I got this out.  I am done with the foolishness! No more killing myself for a company.  I will do anything for my family and quite frankly WHO WOULDN’T!!

I hope that this is an isolated situation and that lots of women don’t find this to be true too.

 

Getting antsy about Baby #1

So as soon as baby #1 starts walking people start asking about baby #2.  For me personally, I would love to know to have another but is all in God’s timing.  I just find it so interesting that a woman has sooo many challenges once they start having children.  Everyone has an opinion…everyone has something to say about everything..what they eat, how they sleep, what you buy them..what they wear…who they play with etc.  Its mentally exhausting!!

Its taken me a year and a half to ignore it.  But recently a woman was sooo serious..she pulled me to the side and said…please don’t wait until she is 2 to have another one…trust me.

I walked away like wow is she telling me something serious here that I am not paying attention to?  Clearly time will tell but I really started to wonder.

Is there perfect timing with having the next child?

The Dream Street

So here is a little story about my progress…Ever since I was a little girl my mom and I used to drive on Sundays after church and look at houses.  I became rather obsessed with nice architecture and unique looking houses.

When I learned to drive myself I found myself getting lost and stumbling on amazing houses.   On those drives I started making decisions and declarations for my life.

Today, I have moved several times, have a house and family of my own but I still have a dream street!  The dream street gives me something to look forward to, goals to obtain and options in life that I should always be considering.

My ultimate goal in life is constant progress and a “dream street” can always get better and better!

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Finding the Time to Think

One of the things no one told me about motherhood was just the very simple fact that there would be days, weeks etc. where you would go without doing lots of thinking.  You are almost always on auto-drive and you just move from one thing to the next trying to keep up.  I now have a one year old and I swear she was just born.  I am just starting to find the time to do things again for myself.  Then there is the time I used to spend with friends.  Now its nearly non existent and if I get the chance to “sneak away” I have to almost train myself to relax!

Well…cheers to motherhood.  I suppose you live and you learn.  One of these days I will stop heating up my coffee in the microwave about 5 times before realizing that its already time for bed and that I never even got to drink my coffee lol.

Words to Inspire: In a child’s eyes

“In a child’s eyes, a mother is a goddess. She can be glorious or terrible, benevolent or filled with wrath, but she commands love either way. I am convinced that this is the greatest power in the universe.”
N.K. Jemisin, The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms